It's up to each individual party goer to decide if he or she would like to bring a gift to the party, but there's no reason a hostess should refuse gifts out of hand. Alcohol is often an easy gift to bring to a party, especially if the guest anticipates that lots of alcohol will be consumed.

You've never thrown a party at your house where say, you made the burgers and someone else brought the potato salad and someone else brought a watermelon and someone else brought the beer?

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I feel better now. Thank you. I guess the problem is that hubby's profession puts us in the position of being the wealthiest people that his friends at work know. Let's just say that after years of service the hubby makes less per year than my paralegal and his department is the highest paid in the area. Most of the guys he works with have numerous children (cops and firemen, what is with that breeding thing? Is it a fear of death and need to procreate?) and stay at home wives so they could never throw an "all inclusive" party like we can. I guess people in lower income brackets are just used to combining resources. Beats me. I will continue, with the apparent blessing of the FB, to do it my way.:D

Nice one, Jack. Too bad I'm blurring your eyes with that double vision.

str8

Absolutely -- it's a gift, and you should not expect the host to use the gift that night, rather than saving it.

But people don't necessarily recognize this, and it can be awkward -- like if I make dinner for people, and choose a really special (expensive/unusual/complementary) bottle of wine, and they bring a perfectly good but not as special bottle that I would prefer to set aside.

Fortunately, like many problems, this one can be resolved simply by drinking more.

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In that milieu, that could be interpreted as being patronizing. Unless your hubby is their boss. I'm not saying you are being patronizing, I'm saying some picky bitchy pissy mean people might take it upon themselves to be insulted by your hospitality, and the avenue for that in this case would be by characterizing it as "patronizing." Or maybe some synonym of patronizing.

I partly just wanted to say milieu again, especially since I already looked up how to spell it.

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My freshman year intro micro economics textbook. Now when people call me lazy, I can just counter that I value my leisure time more highly than most and am making rational labor/leisure tradeoffs that get me to my highest indifference curve. Then they walk away so I can go back to watching the World Series of Poker.

str8

Yes. The host should be free to save the gift for re-gifting to the woman from her husband's office who invited them to her wedding.

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Speaking of, how were the strippers and blow?

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Speaking of milieu, I just wanted to remind all the boastful denizens of our fine forum that next week is the time to show the rest of the world your wonderful, ahem, Racks.

Anonymously, of course.

not7yS

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it is not patronizing for TF to provide for her guests. any of them who think of TF as the stuck up rich lawyer will anyway. plus, we should assume that people have friends ltl, just because you and i have driven everyone away doesn't mean the others don't have solid friendships. she should still do that which she feels is right. My god, you've probably already made her feel uncomfortable about this. so TF keep buying when you have a party- its not patronizing especially bwecause you guys just drink beer. any one could buy a keg when they have a party; it is not a rich/middle clas issue.

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As a nice Jewish boy, I think that I'm getting a taste of how the rest of the world feels as December 25th creeps closer, far too slowly.

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And Leagl will know how it feels to belong to a family that opens presents on Christmas Eve.

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Do we have any idea of how many pictures have been submitted? 'Cause I want to see some nudity.

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As I said, I am not saying she is patronizing I'm just saying that some ungrateful guests might ungraciously view her as being patronizing. Sometimes we don't realize how other people might view our behavior, particularly if we think we are behaving "correctly."
It is my goal to make other people feel as bad as possible at all times. Good to know I'm achieving it. Acheiving. Achieving. Whatever.
I'm assuming you are a cheap-ass who lives in the same city and you just want to get invited to her house for free food and liquor.
Hold the phone -- they provide beer only? That's one sucky party. People think they are patronizing AND cheap. What a combo.

Need I even say, ;).

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Originally posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Trifling, from you. Like there isn't better?

swamp kike
dago wop
guerro
stupid roundeye
etc
etc