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RealityBites 10-17-2003 11:44 AM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by paigowprincess
Hasn't Friends done this I hate your SO hypo to death? Here is what will happen. The thing that troubles you about the relationship will come to trouble your friend. then your friend will dumpthe guy and then your friend will find out that you never approved in the first place.
I don't know, I don't watch the show.

But, I don't hate him, actually I like him a lot. They just suck together. And they've been doing this for two years. The next step is marriage. Thanks for the all seeing eye... but the question was "what would you do?" not "what's gonna happen, gypsy fortune teller?"

Thanks for playing.

Tyrone Slothrop 10-17-2003 11:46 AM

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Originally posted by paigowprincess
Something to do with the fact he has no bullpen and pitching beats hitting?
As someone has surely pointed out by now, he had a bullpen to go to.

evenodds 10-17-2003 11:48 AM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by paigowprincess
Hasn't Friends done this I hate your SO hypo to death? Here is what will happen. The thing that troubles you about the relationship will come to trouble your friend. then your friend will dumpthe guy and then your friend will find out that you never approved in the first place.
Talk to her about it in general terms. Tell her you are concerned about her and her happiness. You don't need to talk about the relationship at all.

If she wants to talk about the relationship, don't take sides, just tell her you care and you worry.

Edited to add: once it gets to marriage stuff, you have to talk about the relationship. Recommend strongly couples counseling. It's not up to you and the boyfriend to be their therapists or to get in the middle, but you have to make a stand to prevent further unhappiness.

I was in the situation with a friend and all of the close friends had an intervention. He still married the bitch, but we all felt better for knowing he made a fully informed choice.

Edited again to clarify (hi RP!):

He is still our friend and appreciates the candor. Though the marriage is miserable and she's now a hyper-bitch, he knows he did it to himself and that his friends love him.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) 10-17-2003 11:53 AM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by RealityBites


[1] So, question is: Would you tell her your true feelings about their relationship? (we run in the same circles, she is my friend, he is BF's friend)

[2] I'm looking to purchase my friend an unique wedding album for the pictures that friends took at the wedding. Any thoughts? (if available online, even better for this patch dweller).

Thanks.

Rb (I gave up Fridays for Lent)
[1] Why can't you tell her that you think they're relationship suck and that they should break up permanently? And that you're saying this because you care about her and you care about him, and you can't stand to see each other continue to make each other miserable. There's no need to say he's a jerk (or she is). Just that it's clear to you, and that everyone else would mostly agree with you, that they don't work in a relationship together. Just be sure to wait at least 2 weeks before you hook up with the guy.

[2] Try Exposures.com (i think that's the addy; if not google exposures and album and photo, and hope the IT nazis don't get wind of it). They have a number of nice albums, although they may not qualify as unique.

Isn't lent over?

sebastian_dangerfield 10-17-2003 11:55 AM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by RealityBites
First, two friends that have been dating for 2 years and fight ALL the time. She continues to come to us for advice when they "take breaks" and then she always goes back to him... We've stopped telling her (about 1.5 years ago) our true feelings about their relationship (we like them each individually a lot) because she always goes back...well now it's getting ridiculous...

So, question is: Would you tell her your true feelings about their relationship? (we run in the same circles, she is my friend, he is BF's friend)

Then on to happier thoughts, I'm looking to purchase my friend an unique wedding album for the pictures that friends took at the wedding. Any thoughts? (if available online, even better for this patch dweller).

Thanks.

Rb (I gave up Fridays for Lent)
Keep yer mouth shut and change the subject when the issue comes up. If you want to lose both friends for no good reason, by all means, interject yourself.

purse junkie 10-17-2003 12:00 PM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by sebastian_dangerfield
Keep yer mouth shut and change the subject when the issue comes up. If you want to lose both friends for no good reason, by all means, interject yourself.
Yep. At most, you can say you can love them both (true) and that you want them to both to be happy, whether together or apart (true) and that you'll support her whatever she decides (true, if you keep your actual feelings completely suppressed and let her bawl on you when they implode). Otherwise, she'll (a) blame you for telling her to go back to him when they eventually break up or (2) blame you for telling you to dump him if she doesn't find somebody better before she gets antsy.

andViolins 10-17-2003 12:07 PM

News Break In
 
Fox News website is reporting that all U.S. Airliners are being searched for box cutters. No other info. Anyone know anything else?

www.foxnews.com

aV

Replaced_Texan 10-17-2003 12:10 PM

Friend in a bad relationship and wedding gift question
 
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Originally posted by RealityBites

So, question is: Would you tell her your true feelings about their relationship? (we run in the same circles, she is my friend, he is BF's friend)
"'In affairs of the heart, Princess,' Cesar used to say, 'one should neither offer advice nor solulutions...just a clean hanky when appropriate.'"
--The Flanders Panel, Arturo Perez Reverte, pg. 14.

notcasesensitive 10-17-2003 12:11 PM

News Break In
 
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Originally posted by andViolins
Fox News website is reporting that all U.S. Airliners are being searched for box cutters. No other info. Anyone know anything else?

www.foxnews.com

aV
Did the story mention anything about democrats and other terrorist supporters being kept off of planes? No I'm sure it was fair and balanced. Hi Penske.

pony_trekker 10-17-2003 12:15 PM

world's best husband
 
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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Hands down it is this guy...

http://www.nytimes.com/2003/10/16/garden/16PROU.html

[guy builds kick-ass vacation home for wife while she's off battling the world's health problems]
That is what I fucking hate about the fucking NY Times. Story after story about how rich motherfuckers have life fucking dicked. Who fucking cares? Fuck him. Fuck her. Oh how darling, hubby has a 1.5 mill house built in the Hamptons. In typical yuppie scumdom manner he called contractors, made the life and death decision to "paint the walls white" and wrote the checks. Wow, a regular Time Man of the Year.

Then they cooked dinner together. Chicken and cashews. Fucking amazing.

I nuked some Pizza Hut, then I changed the toilet paper roll last night in my bathroom so everyone else in my house could take a dump. I don't see them writing about that shit.

But then we are treated to such genius as:

"but Dr. Dean, whose pressed tan slacks, black polo shirt and gold watch are more Donny Osmond than Marcus Welby, M.D., said he took his lonely duties in stride. His wife first saw the place when it was finished on Memorial Day weekend. Since then, they have used it every week, except when Dr. Ho was away on business. "I am very pleased with the way the house turned out," she said, in a telephone message."

Forget it. Bring back Jayson Blair. Maybe he could drum up a threesome, murder or some venereal disease in that story.

"but Dr. Dean, whose pressed tan slacks, black polo shirt and gold watch were stained with bloody pus from gonnorhea dripping from his penis, are more emasculated Donny Osmond than Marcus Welby, M.D., said he took his lonely duties in stride. His wife first saw the place when it was finished on Memorial Day weekend. She surprised him as at the time, he was fucking the housekeeper in the ass. Since then, they have used it for swinger orgies every week, except when Dr. Ho was away on business. "I mo ki dat mofo," she said, in a telephone message."

paigowprincess 10-17-2003 12:17 PM

world's best husband
 
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Originally posted by pony_trekker
That is what I fucking hate about the fucking NY Times. Story after story about how rich motherfuckers have life fucking dicked. Who fucking cares? Fuck him. Fuck her. Oh how darling, hubby has a 1.5 mill house built in the Hamptons. In typical yuppie scumdom manner he called contractors, made the life and death decision to "paint the walls white" and wrote the checks. Wow, a regular Time Man of the Year.

Then they cooked dinner together. Chicken and cashews. Fucking amazing.

I nuked some Pizza Hut, then I changed the toilet paper roll last night in my bathroom so everyone else in my house could take a dump. I don't see them writing about that shit.

But then we are treated to such genius as:

"but Dr. Dean, whose pressed tan slacks, black polo shirt and gold watch are more Donny Osmond than Marcus Welby, M.D., said he took his lonely duties in stride. His wife first saw the place when it was finished on Memorial Day weekend. Since then, they have used it every week, except when Dr. Ho was away on business. "I am very pleased with the way the house turned out," she said, in a telephone message."

Forget it. Bring back Jayson Blair. Maybe he could drum up a threesome, murder or some venereal disease in that story.

"but Dr. Dean, whose pressed tan slacks, black polo shirt and gold watch were stained with bloody pus from gonnorhea dripping from his penis, are more emasculated Donny Osmond than Marcus Welby, M.D., said he took his lonely duties in stride. His wife first saw the place when it was finished on Memorial Day weekend. She surprised him as at the time, he was fucking the housekeeper in the ass. Since then, they have used it for swinger orgies every week, except when Dr. Ho was away on business. "I mo ki dat mofo," she said, in a telephone message."
I just had a brilliant idea. Thrasher F. Trekker.

robustpuppy 10-17-2003 12:35 PM

world's best husband
 
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Originally posted by pony_trekker
Rant
The wife is a frigid bitch ("I am very pleased") and the guy is a tool for matching his kitchen cabinets to his white leather living room chairs.

I have a very sneezy cat and I actually chose a sofa fabric that would camouflage his dried snot. So I hear you pony (and where have you been lo these many moons?), fuck both of them.

notcasesensitive 10-17-2003 12:41 PM

world's best husband
 
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Originally posted by robustpuppy
The wife is a frigid bitch ("I am very pleased") and the guy is a tool for matching his kitchen cabinets to his white leather living room chairs.

I have a very sneezy cat and I actually chose a sofa fabric that would camouflage his dried snot. So I hear you pony (and where have you been lo these many moons?), fuck both of them.
Yeah the wife, whatever. I believe that I made my view of workaholics pretty clear yesterday. I'm just saying if some guy wants to build me a house and actually has the ability to pull together something cool (not a fucking hunting lodge or something), I'm down with that. He would be handsomely rewarded.

fair and balanced 10-17-2003 12:42 PM

News Break In
 
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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
No I'm sure it was fair and balanced.
Don't think so, I don't fly commercial.

robustpuppy 10-17-2003 12:46 PM

world's best beard
 
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Originally posted by notcasesensitive
Yeah the wife, whatever. I believe that I made my view of workaholics pretty clear yesterday. I'm just saying if some guy wants to build me a house and actually has the ability to pull together something cool (not a fucking hunting lodge or something), I'm down with that. He would be handsomely rewarded.
Somehow I don't think this guy would appreciate the reward. For example, while armless chairs are perfect for fucking, leather chairs are not. And everybody knows white leather makes you look fat. What was he thinking?


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