Originally Posted by sebastian_dangerfield (Post 409092)

I don't think I'd dig it, but the quid pro quo might ease that lack of comfort.

Originally Posted by pony_trekker (Post 409069)

Speaking of which, will Mrs. Trekker get pissed if I tell her I ate Hannah Teter's Maple Blondie?

http://www.benjerry.com/flavors/our-...product_id=154

Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 409090)

The desire to do this is not the same as the action of doing this. I desired to fuck a lot of people during my relationship with [insert name here - I forget what he is called on this board, if anything]. However, I did not. Acting on every desire - especially when it fucks up your long term goals - is so fucking stupid and immature.

The problem is not the desire - that cannot be helped. The problem is the action - that is a matter of character.

Originally Posted by Fugee (Post 409094)

This guy sounds less and less appealing all the time.

Originally Posted by notcasesensitive (Post 409098)

Hence my earlier advice. Which, if you all forgot, is No Fucking Way.

Originally Posted by notcasesensitive (Post 409098)

Hence my earlier advice. Which, if you all forgot, is No Fucking Way.

Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) (Post 409100)

It wasn't big, italic, or red enough for me to remember.

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski (Post 409101)

at some point text cannot be "more" italic- instead it simply starts to become vertical.

think about it.

Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall (Post 409078)

Better to not have her grow up in a household without trust, sufficient respect between parents, anger and eventually no love. I went through this.

I remember bilmore posting about some study that said it's always better for the kids for the parents to stay together. I think this is absolute bullshit. My daughter is very happy and has two very loving homes. This, although obviously not ideal, beats the hell out of living in a house where the parents don't really want to be together.

That said, divorce for older children must be really hard. My daughter has grown up outside the traditional household structure. She's 8 (and, so far) is a happy, well-adjusted kid.

So, fuck all that pressure and guilt so many people throw at you. Focus on being a good parent and do what you think is best, not only for your child, but for you.

Originally Posted by sebastian_dangerfield (Post 409077)

Every man needs to know every woman around him. I want to fuck every attractive woman I see, and many of the unattractive ones as well. Monogamy's artificial and, logically speaking, ridiculous. We're basally wired to fuck hundreds, if not thousands, of people in our lives. So for Christ's sake, don't chuck him to the curb on that basis alone. Have a simple conversation and come to the point every successful relationship is built upon: That the relationship's health trumps either party's ego and desires, and that if you can't get past that, there's no use in even trying.

The issue isn't making him happy with one person alone. That isn't reality. Every man, and every woman, in every relationship, in some corner of their heads, resents not being able to get some "strange" now and again. The trick's getting him to realize it's a simple matter of choice - that you're both better off together than he is running around feeding his ego.

Originally Posted by notcasesensitive (Post 409098)

Hence my earlier advice. Which, if you all forgot, is No Fucking Way.

Originally Posted by Adder (Post 409085)

Needs to be negotiated up front though, doesn't it?

But as to your question, is your marriage open? If not, how would you feel about your wife stepping out?

Which isn't to say that I don't agree with you. But I think a lot of people share your view in theory but not in practice.

Originally Posted by notcasesensitive (Post 409098)

Hence my earlier advice. Which, if you all forgot, is No Fucking Way.

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski (Post 409089)

print this out and read it if you ever think about giving him another chance. that is creepy.