Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

Well, since we're being all anecdotal and all, I'll mention that my parents' divorce was really tough on me. They separated when I was 13. It wasn't that it rocked my idea of love and marriage or anything (my sister and I spent a lot of our youth listening to them fight and wishing they would divorce). It was that they put me in the middle and ran their petty mean-spirited fights through me. Absolutely awful. I had debilitating migraines throughout my teens and the stress they put on me was a huge part of those.

On the other hand, Senor Hombre's parents divorced a few years after his youngest sister left the house. No major fallout of that one that I heard about from any of his siblings.

So I guess I agree with Ty's overly broad generalization. Which is not to say that I wish my parents would have stayed together for a minute longer, but if a kid is above a certain age (6? ish?) and still in the house and witnesses the day-to-day badness that accompanies most divorces, it can take a toll.

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

Huh. I give his parents credit for keeping their extremely delicate boy in a bubble for that many years.

Re: Weed, Whites and Wine
 

I hate those faggots. They tried to steal my equipment.

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

Did you break up with him because you got sick of cutting his food or wiping his ass?

TM

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

I'm old-school maybe, but they used to say if a "straight" guy reaches 30 and is unmarried, he's certainly got some stuff that will turn out not to be true.

the modern analysis might be that 30 is a little old to have your "perceptions of relationships realigned." at some you have to move from your perceptions to your experiences,

Jupiter 2 and Atticus too
 

I picture your bubble as having had flexible arms, so you could do the "Danger Will Robinson!!!" move.

CDF

Re: On a "need to know" basis
 

Given the unanimous agreement here on how ABBA should act, I make the line at 3 to 1 in favor of her reconciling with the douche.

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

You are an awesome mom.

My boyfriend's parents divorced when he was about three. Both hooked up with their future spouses within a year or two, and until his step-father died earlier this year, both were in 30 plus year relationships (dad and step-mom still going strong). He got not one, but two views of how stable, good, long term relationships work.

Re: On a "need to know" basis
 

You're not winning any sucker bets here, pal.

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

I heard a different story explaining my parents' divorce long after it happened, and it kinda rocked my world.

Re: On a "need to know" basis
 

on the plus side, they do make beautiful kids

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

no BJs to completion, and then they hired that one hippy babysitter that always smelled of burnt rope.

Re: On a "need to know" basis
 

I was going to tell her to go for it, if only to get some reverse psychology going.

This is not a comment on ABBA, but one someone asks for advice on a chat board and the response is this loud and uniform, you've got to know that em is going to make the opposite decision, because the only reason em is asking for advice at all is that em wants to do it but knows that it's a bad idea.

Re: Welcome back E/O, leagl and Fringey: no one say the name "Penske" 3 times in a ro
 

No.

Bringing this conversation full circle, I broke up with him because he cheated on me.

Re: On a "need to know" basis
 

Yes, and the kids will have great material for their first books.

I've always blamed my inability to write the great American novel on my parents' long and happy marriage. Do you know how hard it is to have to go out and collect all of your own traumas? By the time you're done, you don't even feel like writing about it anymore because you're old and busted like Thurgreed.