3
 

Link please.

3
 

I don't have a link, but the title is "3" and the author is Julie Hilden. Try www.penguin.com. She also wrote "The Bad Daughter" (Algonquin Books) and writes for Slate. She lives in NYC.

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Yes, it means you have amazing chemistry and you should date him. Seriously.

Those chemical/biological/electrical reactions are important -- often your dream guy looks, sounds, and is nothing like you thought he would be. If you keep looking for right accent, right bar, right whatever, you'll overlook the potential for something great.

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So I have a lifttime of listening to how wicked cool that cahr is? What if he still has his acid washed jeans and black reeboks as these Woostah types do?

OK, here is another question then. When you have the tzzzzz tzzzzzzz electrical vibe with someone- the kind where third parties can observe it (and I have had this maybe five times in my life, probably less- very rare) is it always a two way thing? Or is it possible only I felt it?

Usually when this happens with someone, well always, the guy was just as swayed by itt, and then things giot REALLY intense. Then I had to back out of it bc it was too intense. maybe I am old enough to deal with it finally? I wonder if the people in LTRs for the most part felt this initially?

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Exactly. Very good advice.

Purchased the new OutKast this weekend. Love it.

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I have felt that electric buzz a few times. With one guy I dated for a couple of years, I still have the sense memory of the first time he hugged me. Great chemistry does not necessarily equal great relationship, but it's worth exploring.

The first time the OddMan held my hand I did not feel that pulse of electricity. Instead, I felt like I had slipped into a warm bath. It was the most comfortable natural feeling in the world. The weird thing is that he held my hand within five minutes of our meeting and it felt as though we'd been together forever.

casting disaster
 

When I read the book my mind actually pictured John Goodman. He would be perfect for the role.

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Was this "electrical vibe" sexual or not? B/c I've had this happen in both ways. A few times it was obviously sexual (but there nonetheless). Another time it was like a magnetic field pulling she and I together, and everyone saw it and recognized it for what it was. It transcended sex, i.e., it felt like it was on a much higher plane than sex. Almost spiritual.

Full, round, artificial presumptions
 

You both need to realize that the expression of opinions is not necessarily a personal attack on you, your mother or your wife. And if you think that it always is, you need to examine why that is. That's all that I have to say about this. Just get on with your life and wait for the next time someone disagrees with a premise you hold true to get all worked up.

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Thats pretty amazing actually. Like it was predestined or something. almost makes you believe in fate. the problem is that is how the good ones start I guess. The chemistry thing turns into a volatile relationship full of hot tempers and hot sex. Thats why I am hesitant.

Halloween Poll - First-hand ghost stories
 

I stayed for a week or so in a castle in Scotland which, needless to say for a scotish castle, was haunted by 7 or 8 fairly well-known local ghosts. (The one in my room was a little boy who sat around and threw things at you while you were trying to sleep.) The most infamous one was the daughter of one of the lords in the 13th century. She'd made eyes at some man her father didn't like, so he locked her in one of the towers on bread and water until she agreed not to see him again. Unfortunately, he was called away on short notice and forgot to tell anyone she was in there. She starved, and no one knew it until her father got back and found her a month later. Anyhow, she cries a lot.

In York, next to the cathederal, is what I vaguely recall is the oldest private house in the city - 11th C? I can't remember. It is much older than the cathederal, anyway. So, during one of the plagues that went through the city in the later part of the middle ages, the family living there discovered the telltale bruising under the jaw of their toddler. They immediately left the house, locked the door and put the plague mark on it, leaving the baby locked inside. To this day the York police are called a dozen times a year by strangers and tourists reporting the child banging on the windows of the back room and screaming to be let out. The people who live there are fairly good natured about it.

One of my universities reportedly has a few ghosts of people I knew. I understand that the college secretary, Miss Dear, who was secretary during my tenure and died a few years ago is now haunting the offices. Unfortunately - she was rather unpleasant, and given to losing things. One of the janitors I knew, Dick, also reportedly haunts a closet where he used to retire for quick naps. I am waiting for a doorman/guard I knew named Iver to kick off, actually - he will surely haunt the place, roaming the buildings and cursing outrageously though his toothless mouth. If they're lucky, he'll keep fixing bicycles.

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I have no idea. I was kind of stunned the whole time bc I didnt think that could happen with this guy, and after being puzzled by the yoga orgasm thing, I run into him outside. I didnt know what was happening. Now that I think about it, when he put his hands on my hips, it just felt really warm and really good. He said something like "I cant believe I just pulled up your pants" which led me to believe that he probably was acting on autopilot too. when we separated, I felt like I was in love.

my life is lacking
 

I've never been in a haunted place and I've never felt an electric bzzzz with anyone. I felt stuff other than the usual, but always assumed it was the alcohol.

Just in case you were all wondering.

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Yes, felt it initially. Still feel it. As someone else said (Coltrane? sorry, I was skimming), the connection can be purely physical or it can be more of a connectedness, sort of a feeling that this person was meant to be in your life. True that the physical thing might lead to a more volatile relationship, but if you have both the physical and the other (spiritual doesn't seem quite right, but similar), then maybe some of that volatility is worth working through.

At least that is the story coming from this counseling survivor...

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I feel the electricity with random people, at random times. It is a good feeling, but for me has always been a strictly chemistry thing and not a life long love thing. The chemistry is always there, but the rest of the relationship not so much.

Mr. Kiss is the exception. So far.