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			| robustpuppy | 12-03-2009 10:13 PM |  
 Re: On a "need to know" basis
 
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					Originally Posted by ABBAKiss
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				 We were engaged when he came home and told me he was cheating and leaving. So we did not get married. 
 |  Thank your lucky stars!  
 
Understandably, you are angry that he talked you into -- that you let him talk you into -- having a baby when you never wanted to have children.  You're furious because the only reason  you did it is that he convinced you --  you let him convince you -- that he was committed.  But get the fuck over it.  It's irrelevant.  Sperm met egg, they handed you the baby, and you became a mother.  Like almost every other mother on earth, you're in it regardless of what happens with or to your partner or your partnership.  
 
Deal with it as if he died. The man you wanted him to be is dead.  The fantasy is dead.  Grieve and move on.  If not for yourself, for your daughter.  Like barely said, she is the only victim here.  Clearly, you love her very much.  Get it together.  It is the ONLY thing you are allowed to do.  You are NOT ALLOWED to let your life spiral out of control because you are angry that you got talked into having a kid.  You are NOT ALLOWED to hold onto that anger because it will affect your child.   Do you hear me?  NOT. FUCKING. ALLOWED.
 
And get a restraining order. |