Re: So
 

Oh. Great idea. But we all know I don't have the chops for that.

Re: So
 

I kind of don't. But there was a post about being there when we will be, so it raised the question.

Honestly, I forgot mentioning it.

Re: school tours
 

You don't think that is sad?

Re: school tours
 

We used to get the occasional resume, for a summer associate position, that mentioned having attended one of them. That should be all anyone needs to know.

Re: school tours
 

No. One also might need to know that a dependent clause is not separated from the main clause by commas. Anyone know if they cover that at Choate?

Re: school tours
 

Okay, I'll bite. Why do you think it is sad for someone to want to go to boarding school?

Re: school tours
 

He feels it implies an unhappy home life.

Re: school tours
 

My boss (who has sent all his kids to boarding school) asked me to sit in on an interview where a kid who had gradated a good college and went to a good boarding school was applying for a paralegal position.

The guy wouldn't be working for me so I don't know why he asked me to sit in, only that the kid went to a school I had been looking at for my kid for athletics reasons. If my boss knew that he didn't hear it from me but whatever,

Bottom line is the kid blew us away. He was as articulate a person as I have ever seen, and we have senior members of congress in our office asking for dough all the time. After the interview, uncharacteristically, I leveled with my boss and asked "Any idea why, instead of interviewing at Goldman or McKinsey, he is coming here?" It's sort of like hiring Emeril to be the fry cook at the Golden Nugget and paying minimum wage.

That didn't go over well with my boss who hired him over my objection.

He started the following Monday.

And quit two weeks later.

Re: school tours
 

No, not at all. I don't understand the reverse snobbery. Whatever the motivator, it comes off as insecurity. True, not everyone has the opportunity to go to boarding school (I didn't), but why the knee-jerk response that it is a BAD, BAD THING without knowing anything about it other than its cost?

Private schools in NYC for KINDERGARDEN (!!) cost as much as a year's boarding tuition at Exeter (just to pick one). I don't know for certain, but I'd wager the same is true for private elementary schools in LA and San Francisco and other places. Why not kick up the same fuss about those horrible, selfish parents who elect to send their kids to private school? Is it because it's not boarding school? Why isn't it even worse to spend all that money on kindergarden than for high school, where there is often an appreciable difference in how/what is taught?

It's so small-minded to make generalized conclusions about parents and parental choices when you have limited-to-no knowledge about what goes into those decisions. Just because you "have a feeling" or "know people who are jerks" who send their kids to private school for what you deem irrelevant reasons doesn't mean every parent makes that decision for that irrelevant (to you) reason. But whatever the reason, why TF do you care?

You'll probably feel better if you unburden yourself of that massive chip on your shoulder. But if it makes you happy to tote it around, have at it, by all means.

(I can't believe I had to spell this out.)

Re: school tours
 

Do what you want, but I think sending your kid away is sad. I have a hard time imagining that it's worth it on emotional terms alone. Much less financial. But saddest of all is when it's primarily motivated by status seeking (not saying that's you).

Re: school tours
 

My (very tiny) suburb has more graduate degrees percentage wise than any place else in my state. My daughter's 2nd grade class had 33% of the kids on Ritalin. That is, most of the parents were able to get 2 college degrees, but their kids can't deal with 2nd grade? On the rent's board a few years back I did a big rant about how no kid should be on ritalin. Then one sock posted about em's kid who it helped. Who the fuck am I to tell someone how em's kid should be raised. Reread Sidd and me agreeing (c'mon now) about private v. public school choices. Your choices are motivated by a thousand things we can't know. Plus, you do realize adder is an idiot? (by contrast to you, adder chose not to meet me when I went to Minneapolis, referrals alone that makes him a 2 digit IQ guy).

Re: school tours
 

They all leave the nest some time.

Re: school tours
 

you hope, you hope.

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Sure, and when they are 18 and all of their peers are doing it too, it's different. When they are 14 and doing it because you are telling them they should, it's a lot harder.

Re: school tours
 

No it isn't.