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Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430357)

FUCK OFF.

Ahh, I see. You just want someone to scream at.

TM's right, whether or not it's in his usual dickish way. You got a whole lot of good advice and straight out warnings on here from Day One of the McDouche Era from smart people who knew what they were talking about (not me, because I'm neither), and you did what you wanted anyway, which is of couse absolutely fine. But now you're going to start frothing at the mouth because (in your incorrect reading of the post) someone has the sheer nerve to suggest that you might not be 100% totally righteously justified and correct in every detail of your towering wrath? Please.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by bold_n_brazen (Post 430375)

It's not fair to make her feel disloyal to you for loving him. She is SUPPOSED to love him. He's also supposed to be worthy of that love, but to the extent that he is not, you're going to need to give him chances to improve.

Wiser words have not been spoken on this board. Remember them.

TM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Fugee (Post 430376)

Two days a week doesn't seem "reasonable" to me for grandparent visitation but they could get some time.

Although if it reduces time spent with Mr. McDouche, it might be a net benefit for baby ABBADouche.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall (Post 430381)

Wiser words have not been spoken on this board. Remember them.

TM

I miss Bilmore *sniff*.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) (Post 430382)

Although if it reduces time spent with Mr. McDouche, it might be a net benefit for baby ABBADouche.

One of the hardest things ever for any parent is to put their kids needs before their own. Many can't and utterly fail. wrapped in self absorption or bitterness.

for whatever flaws I have I put my kids first. it is sad mc douche can't but it is up to you to keep it tight to make up for that. sucks, but reality.

you can do it. babes.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Cletus Miller (Post 430378)

That was exactly what I was getting at, but didn't want to dig thru MN statutes if it wasn't there.

Didn't she tell you to fuck off? FUCK OFF!

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ironweed (Post 430380)

Hey you. In the Euro-prick "football" jersey with the pint of whatever.

FU.
C.

K. OF.

F.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by bold_n_brazen (Post 430375)

Best case scenario is that ABBA wins because McDouche wakes up and becomes the kind of dad the ABBABaby ought to have. But even if he's never going to get there, the ABBABaby should be encouraged to have a relationship with her dad.

I "share" the Brazenette with her dad. She spends every other weekend with him. We also manage to work out holidays pretty amicably. He's her dad and both of them are entitled to the relationship they have.

I will admit that he and I have an unusual relationship, in that we are pretty good friends and trust each other a lot. I'm grateful for the weekends that she is with her dad, because it gives me a chance to catch my breath from constant mommy stuff.

Everyone is right, though. At the end of the day, it's about what's best for the ABBABaby. And honestly, what's best for her is to have a relationship with her daddy. Your job, as her mother, is to facilitate that. It's not fair to make her feel disloyal to you for loving him. She is SUPPOSED to love him. He's also supposed to be worthy of that love, but to the extent that he is not, you're going to need to give him chances to improve.

I HAVE tried to foster her relationship with McDouche, and at one point he had her about 50% of the time, which caused me to have to have my schedule revolve around his. Despite all my efforts, he and his family CONTINUED to harrass me. He escalated the harassment of me DESPITE me being VERY supportive of his relationship with his daughter. He continually lied to me about who she was with and where she was and continued to meddle in my life. I HAVE NEVER TRIED TO KEEP HIM FROM HIS DAUGHTER. The problem is that I have asked him to be respectful of me, and rather than do this, he harassed me. I am at my wits end. I do not have the money to keep litigating this. He has said, and the court is aware from the emails and texts, that he and his family have "umlimited funds to destroy me." Apparently, my major sin was either 1) demanding McDouche be faithful; 2) filing for child support when it became clear he would not be; 3) moving on with my fiance; or 4) some combination of these things. I seriously do not know what else I can do. I have turned the other cheek. I have "accepted" that he will be in her life. I simply cannot handle the disrespect and he and his family continuing to threaten me. I suspect that they will try to turn my child against me, and why? Because I would no longer cater to their son who was completely disrespectful to me and I kicked him out.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Pretty Little Flower (Post 430394)

Hey you. In the Euro-prick "football" jersey with the pint of whatever.

FU.
C.

K. OF.

F.

Oh yeah? I will punch you with THIS FIST RIGHT HERE.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Did you just call me Coltrane? (Post 430383)

I miss Bilmore *sniff*.

I don't get it.

TM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ironweed (Post 430380)

Yes, it turns out I should not have trusted him. You all were right. I was asking for advice on how to deal with the fallout. Has anyone else here had to deal with grandparents visitation when the grandparents already see the child every week? They are doing this to harrass me and destroy my life. They have told me this multiple times. They have tried to get my fiance to leave me. They are out for blood and I am very sad about it. I do not think they have my child's best interest in mind. They have McDouche's need to not feel like his ex has moved on as their main priority.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall (Post 430397)

I don't get it.

TM

He was very wise. And by "wise" I mean "old".

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430399)

They are doing this to harrass me and destroy my life. They have told me this multiple times.

In writing?

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Did you just call me Coltrane? (Post 430401)

In writing?

Yes. I have threats to my fiance from McDouche's dad in writing, and threats to me in various levels of intesity in writing. The words "unlimited funds to destroy you" are popular, as are "my family and I hate you so much." Also, demands to let him show up when he wants to and not stick to a schedule or his next move "will not be so corgil (sic)." Also, McDouche's mom was thrown out of the courtroom for her obnoxious behavior. And yet the litigation rages on.

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430403)

I assume you have attached all of these writings to pleadings or have otherwise informed the court of them?