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futbol fan

08-02-2010 04:03 PM

Re: Holy crap

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Originally Posted by Adder (Post 430421)

Three hot chicks from belfast in derry on holiday. Trouble. In the best sense of the word.

How are they with kids?

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)

08-02-2010 04:04 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by bold_n_brazen (Post 430420)

Is he allowed to tell you when you can have a babysitter and who said babysitter can be?

And is ABBA prohibited from fucking babysitters?

Gattigap

08-02-2010 04:06 PM

Re: Holy crap

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall (Post 430423)

And you need to either have sex or stop posting these updates, because, frankly, it's getting kind of sad.

TM

Oh, ye of little faith. The man's Facebook news feed has pics of every piece of ass that he's had since wheels-down in Dublin.

This board, however, is a more pristine place, and Adder wishes to keep it so.

ETA: Shit. I was looking at Flinty's feed instead of Adder's. Never mind.

Hank Chinaski

08-02-2010 04:14 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430395)

I HAVE tried to foster her relationship with McDouche, and at one point he had her about 50% of the time, which caused me to have to have my schedule revolve around his. Despite all my efforts, he and his family CONTINUED to harrass me. He escalated the harassment of me DESPITE me being VERY supportive of his relationship with his daughter. He continually lied to me about who she was with and where she was and continued to meddle in my life. I HAVE NEVER TRIED TO KEEP HIM FROM HIS DAUGHTER. The problem is that I have asked him to be respectful of me, and rather than do this, he harassed me. I am at my wits end. I do not have the money to keep litigating this. He has said, and the court is aware from the emails and texts, that he and his family have "umlimited funds to destroy me." Apparently, my major sin was either 1) demanding McDouche be faithful; 2) filing for child support when it became clear he would not be; 3) moving on with my fiance; or 4) some combination of these things. I seriously do not know what else I can do. I have turned the other cheek. I have "accepted" that he will be in her life. I simply cannot handle the disrespect and he and his family continuing to threaten me. I suspect that they will try to turn my child against me, and why? Because I would no longer cater to their son who was completely disrespectful to me and I kicked him out.

is there the equivalent of divorced couples counciling? it sounds like the best thing might be to make him realizing trying to hurt you mostly hurts her. someone explaining that might help.

too bad you don't live in Detroit or NY or Chicago*, or one of us boy-socks would get in his fucking face. unfortunately we don't have much manly man power in Minnesota:(

8or seattle

Did you just call me Coltrane?

08-02-2010 04:15 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski (Post 430428)

too bad you don't live in Detroit or NY or Chicago*, or one of us boy-socks would get in his fucking face. unfortunately we don't have much manly man power in Minnesota:(

Plus, knowing Flower, he would probably defend McDouche since we know how much he loves Roman Polanski.

Hank Chinaski

08-02-2010 04:18 PM

Re: Holy crap

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Originally Posted by ironweed (Post 430425)

How are they with kids?

wow. Ironhead finally cracked "100 funniest posts ever". congrats mister 62!

LessinSF

08-02-2010 04:22 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall (Post 430422)

Stop it. Jesus. Fuck them. Figure the custody rights out with the court and ignore what motivates them. For Christsakes. Concentrate on your daughter when you have her. Ignore their phone calls, facebook messages, threats and other bullshit. Hand your daughter over when you're supposed to and take her back when you're supposed to. You cannot change his behavior. Inform the courts and proceed with being a good mother as best you can from there.

TM

How many times will people here bang their heads against the same wall?

Fugee

08-02-2010 04:23 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430417)

Even if he is not present for his parenting time? Why does Elin get to say Tiger cannot have his random sluts around their kids? I do not want random sluts raising my child while he goes out with his friends when my child could be home with me, her mother.

I'm not a family law expert but as far as I know there isn't a requirement that the parent actually spend all of the parenting time with the kids. Parents put the kids in day care or with a sitter when they are at work and some are in school during parenting time.

If the fuckbuddies who babysit for him aren't abusing or neglecting your daughter, you may have to suck that up as yet another douchey thing he's doing.

I'm presuming Elin negotiated that provision with Tiger and he agreed to it.

It's a sucky situation all around but you have to put your daughter first and not do anything that would give them grounds for a judge to sanction you or give some of your time to him or his parents.

You can't make him be a better father. All you can do is be the best mother you can during the time you have with her. And part of that is learning what you can and cannot control. One thing you can control is how you react to what he or his family does. It will probably be one of the hardest things you do.

Atticus Grinch

08-02-2010 04:26 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by ABBAKiss (Post 430417)

Okay, now we're getting somewhere. If he's taking his custody time only to reduce the support obligation to you, because time spent with "him" is essentially credited against his support obligation up to a certain amount, then what you should do is tell him that, if he has her and cannot, for whatever reason, be with her and needs a babysitter, you would be happy to "babysit" during his custody time. You should agree in advance that this won't cause you to seek an increase to his support obligation, and you will not use these occasions as an argument to reduce his custody or visitation (on the basis he hasn't availed himself of the opportunity). If his motivations are as you suppose, he has every reason to agree. If, on the other hand, dumping the baby on the fuckbuddy is his way of getting rid of said fuckbuddy or attracting a new one, then you weren't going to win this one anyway.

I have a friend who went through something similar -- dad always seemed to have something suddenly come up when it was his week with the kids. (He's a huge flake which is why she divorced him. Well, that and the fact he'd outsourced some BJs.) Initially she said "yeah, sure" and tried to charge him for the additional childcare costs she incurred on those weeks. He pushed back, saying it was taking unfair advantage of his repeated misfortunes, and finally I recommended to her that she eat the childcare costs because unless she wanted to move for full custody (and lose), the situation was not net bad for her because unlike him she really valued every second with the kids and it made less sense to penalize him for dropping them on her doorstep than most other alternatives.

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy

08-02-2010 04:32 PM

Re: Holy crap

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Originally Posted by Gattigap (Post 430427)

Adder is the one who has added 15 Filipino friends since last week.

LessinSF

08-02-2010 04:32 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Atticus Grinch (Post 430434)

(He's a huge flake which is why she divorced him. Well, that and the fact he'd outsourced some BJs.)

Do Indian call centers provide these now?

greatwhitenorthchick

08-02-2010 04:34 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Atticus Grinch (Post 430369)

As for the other stuff, do what you are doing. Sadly it is a pretty common story. You win if your daughter only realizes what an asshole McDouche is when she's in her mid-20s. All other outcomes are negative.

I can't agree with this. My nieces (age 13 and 11) and my nephew are pretty savvy as to the douchiness of their dads. I won't get into the douchiness here, but lets just say it can be pretty bad. In spite of that, they get along well with their dads and as well they are, generally speaking, happy, extremely high-performing (at academics and athletics*), well-adjusted kids. I think kids can figure out a lot more than we give them credit for.**

*Have I mentioned lately that my niece holds the national record in Kenya for breastroke in her age group and is ranked in the top 10 for all-Africa.

**this is keeping in mind that you are a parent, and I am not, so build in that discount.

ABBAKiss

08-02-2010 04:38 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

[QUOTE=Fugee;430433]

It's a sucky situation all around but you have to put your daughter first and not do anything that would give them grounds for a judge to sanction you or give some of your time to him or his parents.

QUOTE]

What does this even mean. He and his parents get to abuse the shit out of me and I have to just take it, but if I demand respect I will be sanctioned and my time with my child will be given to his parents? Are you fucking kidding me?

greatwhitenorthchick

08-02-2010 04:41 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski (Post 430428)

counciling?

DTB, would this pass muster?

futbol fan

08-02-2010 04:42 PM

Re: The thread where Spring has sprung, and Penske has risen from the law. Word!

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Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski (Post 430428)