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07-23-2005 02:08 PM |
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Originally posted by Atticus Grinch
I appreciate your putting it that way. However, at the end of the day this is just another useless discussion of "You posted X and that evinces you harbor objectionable belief Y because I think X can't exist without Y (mostly because all the people I've personally met who believe X also believe Y)." Some form of this argument is at the root of every stupid flamewar this place has to offer. It's surreal reading a written debate in which smart people tell you that you must believe Y, something you don't believe, because they can construct an argument about why you should, and then destroy Y because it is dead wrong.
My point was that some component of our appreciation for new life comes from the suffering and sacrifice necessary to accomplish it. No one has taken on this assertion head-on. It's a superficial and quite mean interpretation of that argument to say that I favor suffering, especially suffering of women in particular, which is what you and Fringey imputed to me. But all I said was that if all suffering were eliminated from all childbirth, our view of children would change in unexpected ways --- some of them good, perhaps. I don't think anyone who's experienced childbirth, epidural nor not, would describe the experience in the utopian way I did to make my point about this connection.
Within two posts it turned into:
- Me: If X, then Z.
NCS & Fringey: If .80X, then .80Z. And by our observation, Z is not 80%. Your correlation is therefore false.
Me: I agree Z is not = 80%. There is no unit correlation. My point what that when X is completely obtained, Z will be completely obtained, not incrementally.
Fringey: You are an asshole because two things cannot be correlated unless they are correlated in proportions, and you must secretly believe that non-mothers and mothers who have epidurals have no concept of the pain of childbirth. Most mothers have epidurals; by your argument most women should have no concept of the value of life.
Me: Not so. This has never been about whether women with epidurals, childless women, men, nuns, whatever have this knowledge. The question is whether they, or anyone for that matter, will have it when we have no more stories of difficult childbirths.
[And so on.]
I would have thought that I would have been taken at face value when I said I do not oppose epidurals. I was born with one, as were some of my favorite people. Shit, I suppose we would have done one if it had gotten bad enough. It's strange to me that my statement that this was our order of preference this time around because of our personal risk-balancing would be taken necessarily as judgmental of others when I went so far to say I was not. If we simply disbelieve people's descriptions of their views as posted, the point of this board breaks down.
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I realize this thread has gone down the meta-discussion route, but for the record, I didn't miss a thing by not continuing the pain. Rather, the lack of pain allowed me to avoid being so caught up in it that I missed the birth itself. I was able to observe and experience simultaneously. The mystery of life, regard for it, etc., wasn't damaged. And though I went in fairly enamored of the romance of a natural birth, I don't miss the not having it. It wasn't a matter of not being able to take it, either - as mentioned, my body + pain = long stall in the delivery. There was no immediate danger of which I was advised, but rather than fighting it more, I decided to do something to ease it. Perineal massage, special breathing, epidural - all are methods of getting to the same place.
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