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I'm enjoying the interesting takes everyone has on the dating thing. My situation is not one of seeing two new people at the same time. In fact, I'm not really dating both of them, I don't think.

I started seeing a new guy about 6 weeks ago. He's a lawyer (branching out!) and may have gone to college/law school with a few people here. We generally liked each other right off the bat, but have taken things slowly (in some ways, at least; we are sleeping together t this point) because we are both recently out of long-term relationships (he is not yet officially divorced though they've lived apart for 18 months) and because he has 1/2 custody of his daughter. But I can tell that he is starting to think this is serious, and I'm not there right now.

The other person in the equation (though I'm not sure how much so) is someone you are all quite familiar with. When Señor Hombre and I split up at the end of last year, the idea was to take time apart without saying definitively that it is over for good. I spent the time apart really mourning the relationship and trying to find a way to move on. He's now come back to say maybe we should explore whether we could get things back. I'm thinking about it and probably won't go very far into my thought process in this forum (ya know, because it is sort of awkward and weird given that he could look here at any time). But I'm considering it and we've been hanging out some platonically (so far) while I do so.

New guy and I have never said we were exclusive but I'm leaning towards telling him what is going on. Because I'd be more comfortable being open. I think he'll probably get it, though be disappointed. I'd like to keep seeing him casually while I try to figure this all out, but would also understand if that's not his cup of tea.

So any more well-meaning advice?