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Originally Posted by Fugee
Maybe I'm a wimp about pain but I can't imagine silently putting up with it.
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The author was a senior in college, 22, and having her first penetrative sexual experience. We'd like to think that because she grew up to write for New York Magazine, she must have been educated about sex at some point prior to that, but I've learned this is an unsafe assumption -- a person can be very accomplished in clothed life while being weirdly misinformed about sex for a very long time, sometimes their whole lives.
If she held off on sex because she dreaded it, then gave it up for love of her "first real boyfriend" at 22, then experiencing pain during sex would have confirmed her expectations, so no need to call a doctor, right? I think her behavior is entirely WNL for a lot of women. (I also think her use of "rape" as a way of describing bad consensual sex is demeaning to survivors of non-consensual sex, which is an entirely different and worse experience. If I were with her in the clinic I would tell her to check the "No" box -- none of this dithering about "diet caffeine free rape" bullshit.)
