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Originally Posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy

Quick thoughts:

(1) She is getting help in the form of her therapist, but it doesn't seem to be working. You're not in a position to get her help, but if you feel you must be part of her trainwreck or want to help because you're a good friend, I think you end up trying to talk to her family and see what they're doing.

(2) There is no benefit to anyone in being dishonest to her. If she calls for affirmation, be honest, not politic. "Am I pretty" - "well, the drink is starting to show and you sure as hell don't look great in the middle of or after a bender, but if you got yourself together, yeh, not bad."

(3) She needs a life changing experience - a trip to an Indian ashram, a move to the Farm, peace corpd, religion, etc. - so she'll stop dwelling on her own boring and sick self. Introduce her to Less for some traveling or to Adder just for fun. Or tell her she should join a nunnery for a while instead of rehab. Or invite her to sleep on a beach during a Tsunami.

I see there is still something seriously off about you.