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Sidd Finch · 10-20-2009, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by robustpuppy

Someone once said "industry is the antidote to despair," and I think my mother was an example of that. But I think it worked for her because her temperament was generally happy and optimistic. Had she been prone to depression, I don't think she could have gotten out of bed every day at the crack of dawn.

I agree with pretty much everything you said. But that last part, I'm not sure.

Industry may be a temporary antidote to despair. But it's not a cure. (Is "temporary antidote" redundant?) My father worked 7 days a week, usually 10 hours a day or more. At work, he was happy, jolly almost -- it was eye-opening, in a scary way, for me to go to the hospitals where he worked and see the way the nurses and other doctors treated him, like he was this happy, wonderful guy. And at home, he was a nightmare -- would get mad, often violently, at the drop of a hat. Was sullen. Could never have a conversation with his kids, or even really with my mom, about anything.

Once he retired, he was bored and miserable. The nastiness just took over. If it weren't for the onset of a little senility, which really helped take the edge off him, who knows what would've happened.

So, yeah -- industry, or "keeping busy," may put off despair. But I'm not sure that's a path to happiness.

Hank Chinaski · 10-20-2009, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Sorry, but I am finding this all extremely hard to believe.

This guy is a self-made millionaire, brilliant, athletic, good looking, great in bed and generous with his time and money, but you broke up with him because of "ennui" and that one time he was busy when you wanted to eat pizza and watch the game?

Something is getting left out.

TM

I thought he effectively dumped her, just for awhile, but it was his decision.

Mmmm, Burger (C.J.) · 10-20-2009, 12:18 PM

Screw the depression talk. Cool goal, especially for a 9 year old.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CiYv6R3OOc

Hank Chinaski · 10-20-2009, 12:25 PM

DEXTER QUESTION-

spoiler

My wife feels his victims this year aren't bad enough to get him going. The guy who got out because of Dexter being tired just killed one, and this week's cop was done killing, not a serial killer at all.

I remember a teen from season 1 who wasn't so bad but got it. Other than that they victims do seem to have done more kills before they hit his radar. Has he overfished his pond, and needs to take smaller ones now?

cheval de frise · 10-20-2009, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Sorry, but I am finding this all extremely hard to believe.

This guy is a self-made millionaire, brilliant, athletic, good looking, great in bed and generous with his time and money, but you broke up with him because of "ennui" and that one time he was busy when you wanted to eat pizza and watch the game?

Something is getting left out.

TM

Aww, c'mon. Can't she have a little archistic license?

CDF

PresentTense Pirate Penske · 10-20-2009, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)

Screw the depression talk.

2. Depression bores me. Go to therapy. get medication. self medicate. cut. go pee your diapers. just do what it takes.

whatever.

evenodds · 10-20-2009, 01:39 PM

Seriously, you try distilling down the complicated end of a complicated year-long relationship down into a series of FB posts . . . sheesh. And we still have to deal with each other since we are working on a philanthropic thing together, we work out together, and I am working with him on something for his business.

I would much rather talk about my new thing with the Chimney Sweep. I am trying to figure out how to integrate a new man into my life, while being really anxious about doing something wrong. I hate dating.

Then we also have the tech guru who is still wooing me, despite the fact we went out on a shitty first date before I started dating the artist formerly known as the luckiest man alive. I am his stand-in date for certain things and he's great, but he's trying too hard right now.

My dance card is full and I am seeing the artist formerly known as the luckiest man alive for dinner on Thursday, so we can fight in person. Yay.

cheval de frise · 10-20-2009, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by evenodds

He believes that through activity he can escape this soul-crushing emptiness he feels.

But he can't.

So, he climbs a mountain and feels empty. He saves people and feels empty. He starts new businesses, he endows programs, he develops new philanthropic ventures and he feels empty.

Being with me, though he loves/loved me, felt empty.

***

That is the downside of having the freedom that comes with wealth. You can obsess over whether you're truly happy, and for a lot of us, we're just not and no amount of tutoring inner city kids will fix him.

That's what his therapist is for . . . and clearly she's doing a bang-up job.

Isn't the next step to get Saved By Jesus?

CDF

Did you just call me Coltrane? · 10-20-2009, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ThurgreedMarshall

Day late, dollar short.* http://www.nytimes.com/2008/08/05/ar...on/05food.html

TM

*And after STPing, this sentence only applies to me.

But I specifically want Alton and the Mythbusters gang because I think they'd have good chemistry.

PresentTense Pirate Penske · 10-20-2009, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by cheval de frise

Isn't the next step to get Saved By Jesus?

CDF

If he is lucky.

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 10-20-2009, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by evenodds

Seriously, you try distilling down the complicated end of a complicated year-long relationship down into a series of FB posts . . . sheesh. And we still have to deal with each other since we are working on a philanthropic thing together, we work out together, and I am working with him on something for his business.

I would much rather talk about my new thing with the Chimney Sweep. I am trying to figure out how to integrate a new man into my life, while being really anxious about doing something wrong. I hate dating.

Then we also have the tech guru who is still wooing me, despite the fact we went out on a shitty first date before I started dating the artist formerly known as the luckiest man alive. I am his stand-in date for certain things and he's great, but he's trying too hard right now.

My dance card is full and I am seeing the artist formerly known as the luckiest man alive for dinner on Thursday, so we can fight in person. Yay.

Sorry, got no poetry for a tech guru.

Chimney Sweep, however, has possibilities.

But, so, the crush is no more? Damn, I didn't mean to screw up so quickly. Hank, you got one of those sad smilies?

Fugee · 10-20-2009, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by cheval de frise

Isn't the next step to get Saved By Jesus?

CDF

Definitely.

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 10-20-2009, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Fugee

Definitely.

Look, girl, you take him to services. I don't want to get stuck in a Mass with the guy.

evenodds · 10-20-2009, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Greedy,Greedy,Greedy

Sorry, got no poetry for a tech guru.

Chimney Sweep, however, has possibilities.

But, so, the crush is no more? Damn, I didn't mean to screw up so quickly. Hank, you got one of those sad smilies?

Crush is still in effect. Did I leave you off my dance card, darling?

Hank Chinaski · 10-20-2009, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by evenodds

Crush is still in effect. Did I leave you off my dance card, darling?

when I went out of my to rectruit you to come back here, I visualized many benefits. however, even I did not anticipate the weight loss benefits that would flow from my being made to vomit repeatedly on any given day.