Congratulations Slave and Catrin!!!

[Adder]

Originally Posted by ltl/fb

What's going on with Adder's dumping of that chick?

Thus far, I am trying the fizzle approach. Although as I may attempt to pursue something with someone else, it may have to become more affirmative just out of general decency to both.

[Adder]

Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)

Of course it will--the description has friend with benefits written all over it, with the added downside of its being a coworker. Adder needs to find himself a new love interest at least for the short term to extract himself from the situation.

Friends with benefits wouldn't be all bad, and maybe is basically what has been going on for the last few months. But my concern is that she will start or has started taking it more seriously, while I am actually moving in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, I really can't tell.

She spent the night on Saturday, which led me to spend a fairly sleepless night pondering how to break up. I suck at dating.

[ltl/fb]

Originally Posted by Adder

Friends with benefits wouldn't be all bad, and maybe is basically what has been going on for the last few months. But my concern is that she will start or has started taking it more seriously, while I am actually moving in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, I really can't tell.

She spent the night on Saturday, which led me to spend a fairly sleepless night pondering how to break up. I suck at dating.

Wasn't Saturday after you posed the question?

And, Burger, what's wrong with FWB?

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally Posted by ltl/fb

And, Burger, what's wrong with FWB?

Nothing, unless you're not happy with the arrangement.

[ltl/fb]

Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)

Nothing, unless you're not happy with the arrangement.

I think he's almost more neuroticker than I am. Whee!

[Adder]

Originally Posted by ltl/fb

Wasn't Saturday after you posed the question?

Yup. And yet I have still not done any affirmative breaking up.

[Not Bob]

Originally Posted by Adder

Yup. And yet I have still not done any affirmative breaking up.

Do you prefer the slow or fast version?

(Not Bob says "slow, baby.")

[LessinSF]

Originally Posted by Tyrone Slothrop

I understand why the race adopted the structure that they adopted. But I expect that it didn't even occur to whomever was looking at the results that s/he should look at the non-elite results, too, and so they simply missed her time. And then, when the mistake was pointed out, they covered their asses instead of admitting a mistake. They didn't want to have to try to get the trophies back from the "winners." I can't believe it wasn't as simple as that. The result is post hoc rationalization.

They started the "elites" 20 minutes before the rest. 10 minutes would have prevented this because the winner (yes, she won) would have caught the lead pack and been noticed.

[ltl/fb]

Originally Posted by Adder

Yup. And yet I have still not done any affirmative breaking up.

It's a delicate thing, if it's not all explicitly FWB. I don't envy you. OTOH, you're getting laid, and nothing that can happen in connection with this is going to be lastingly damaging or anything. At worst, she hates you and trashes you to all her friends. But if she does that, she's crazy, so it doesn't matter. If she's relatively normal, there shouldn't be an inordinate amount of drama.

Though it seems like there is a largish subgroup of people for whom anyone they once had any kind of romantic/sexual relationship is an asshole/bitch after the relationship ends. But if that's the case, you were in a no-win.

[notcasesensitive]

Originally Posted by ltl/fb

It's a delicate thing, if it's not all explicitly FWB. I don't envy you. OTOH, you're getting laid, and nothing that can happen in connection with this is going to be lastingly damaging or anything. At worst, she hates you and trashes you to all her friends. But if she does that, she's crazy, so it doesn't matter. If she's relatively normal, there shouldn't be an inordinate amount of drama.

Though it seems like there is a largish subgroup of people for whom anyone they once had any kind of romantic/sexual relationship is an asshole/bitch after the relationship ends. But if that's the case, you were in a no-win.

From the sound of it, she isn't that into him (I have never told someone that I'd like to be single for a while unless I have written off any sort of serious connection). Adder, don't keep yourself up at night. You seem not to be a person who is capable of FWB. Cut the cord. If you want to, remind her of that period when she wanted to be single. Heck, if you are not a breaker-upper, just annoy her in the ways that you must have when she made the single comment and maybe she'll initiate the break-up again.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)

Of course it will--the description has friend with benefits written all over it, with the added downside of its being a coworker. Adder needs to find himself a new love interest at least for the short term to extract himself from the situation.

it cuts into your credibility to call my posts crazed one day, then post the Reader's Digest version of them the next.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by LessinSF

They started the "elites" 20 minutes before the rest. 10 minutes would have prevented this because the winner (yes, she won) would have caught the lead pack and been noticed.

so. They wouldn't have noticed early enough to make up 10 minutes. how many marathons all you guys with opinions have under your belts?

[ltl/fb]

Originally Posted by notcasesensitive

From the sound of it, she isn't that into him (I have never told someone that I'd like to be single for a while unless I have written off any sort of serious connection). Adder, don't keep yourself up at night. You seem not to be a person who is capable of FWB. Cut the cord. If you want to, remind her of that period when she wanted to be single. Heck, if you are not a breaker-upper, just annoy her in the ways that you must have when she made the single comment and maybe she'll initiate the break-up again.

I want to maximize the on-board agonizing.

[Hank Chinaski]

Originally Posted by ltl/fb

It's a delicate thing, if it's not all explicitly FWB. I don't envy you. OTOH, you're getting laid, and nothing that can happen in connection with this is going to be lastingly damaging or anything. At worst, she hates you and trashes you to all her friends. But if she does that, she's crazy, so it doesn't matter. If she's relatively normal, there shouldn't be an inordinate amount of drama.

Though it seems like there is a largish subgroup of people for whom anyone they once had any kind of romantic/sexual relationship is an asshole/bitch after the relationship ends. But if that's the case, you were in a no-win.

translation: Come to think of it, Hank never really broke up with me.

[ltl/fb]

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski

translation: Come to think of it, Hank never really broke up with me.

Does that mean we are still sleeping together?