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Pretty Little Flower · 01-07-2009, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnybunny

Actually, my instincts on it are that he likes me a whole freaking lot and it freaked him out and that if I leave him alone for like 5 months, he'll be in perfect shape for me, but I usually lack the patience/discipline.

Those are not your instincts you are listening to.

Pretty Little Flower · 01-07-2009, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnybunny

Ok, I'll leave him alone and in the meantime find some loser to have hate sex with while I'm wishing the hot nut job is in the process of coming around.

Hi! By the way, I am a great communicator.

Pretty Little Flower · 01-07-2009, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by robustpuppy

Every pot has its lid.

Take it to the druggy board.

robustpuppy · 01-07-2009, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnybunny

Ah, he found out his wife had been cheating on him for 10 years. I might be a little afraid of liking someone again.

He is either lying or stupid or buried his head in the sand for 9.9 years.

Diane_Keaton · 01-07-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by greatwhitenorthchick

No one will be "ready for a relationship" in 5 months. If he will ever be ready, he will be ready now. Because if he really likes you, he won't want you to be apart from him for 5 months.

I agree STRONGLY. I don't mean to be unrealistic or downplay the complexity of a man, but the mere lack of contact by him makes me think he's just not *that* interested. I've always heard that if a man is truly interested, he'll make the effort to contact you even if "he's just coming out of a relationship" or "he was recently hurt by a woman", etc. I mean, some guys don't even let marriage get in the way of pursuing a woman romantically (not just sexually).

Years back I had the chance to test this theory myself. I'm usually the dumper and not the dumpee but.....one time I was dating a guy who had recently gotten out of a long marriage (one he wanted out of for a long time but complicated b/c they had a kid). He ALWAYS called me and not vice versa and never did things with his own convenience in mind (he would drive an hour to pick me up to bring me to an event out in his neck of the woods instead of me taking just taking a bus out there). He'd be scheming our next weekend together before the first one was over. One weekend he didn't. And he didn't call Monday or Tuesday,etc. When he finally called on Friday, I was very nice and chipper. But I already knew it was over and that he was no longer that interested. It SUCKED but I knew it by Wednesday. Of course I said nothing about what I knew, and we had a nice chat. He didn't ask to get together that weekend (but also didn't say he held other plans, which would have prevented it). He just called, we chatted and he said "talk soon." I knew that if we ever spoke again (we didn't), I'd have to be the one to call. One friend insisted I pursue him b/c "he's probably rusty with the dating game" and "just shy". I disagreed and lo and behold a month later, I found out he was hot and heavy on the dating scene and was acting 100% confident in himself and in hot pursuit of the woman of his dreams. My feeling is he met some gals he found hot (I am average) and decided to make a try for a certain type without stringing me along. He was not very attractive but he wanted what he wanted.

Don't accept anything lukewarm. I've never cared if the guy is hot or makes good money, but he's gotta be funny, reliable and totally 100% for me.

soup sandwich · 01-07-2009, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnybunny

Ah, he found out his wife had been cheating on him for 10 years. I might be a little afraid of liking someone again.

So on one hand we have 1) he is not interested.

And on the other hand we have 2) he actually is interested, but he is afraid to like someone again because the last person he really liked cheated on him so he needs some time (say about five months) to learn to trust again before going down that path.

Option 2) just does not happen if he really likes you and is attracted to you. If he really wanted to bang you it would take 5 seconds to get over his trust issues. Actually, not even that long.

robustpuppy · 01-07-2009, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by sebastian_dangerfield

I offer this with the caveat that although I consider myself neurotic, many people close to me have suggested I am actually not neurotic - more deluded, specifically, among other things, about being neurotic. Guide yourself accordingly in taking my advice.

You beautiful fucked-up man, this post makes me want to take care of you for hours and hours while sentimental chick music plays in the background.

LessinSF · 01-07-2009, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnybunny

Ok, I'll leave him alone and in the meantime find some loser to have hate sex with while I'm wishing the hot nut job is in the process of coming around.

Passing on the obvious self-referential post, am I the only one who wants to hear about whatever trainwreck preceded the breakup with the last boyfriend?

Replaced_Texan · 01-07-2009, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Diane_Keaton

I agree STRONGLY. I don't mean to be unrealistic or downplay the complexity of a man, but the mere lack of contact by him makes me think he's just not *that* interested. I've always heard that if a man is truly interested, he'll make the effort to contact you even if "he's just coming out of a relationship" or "he was recently hurt by a woman", etc. I mean, some guys don't even let marriage get in the way of pursuing a woman romantically (not just sexually).

Years back I had the chance to test this theory myself. I'm usually the dumper and not the dumpee but.....one time I was dating a guy who had recently gotten out of a long marriage (one he wanted out of for a long time but complicated b/c they had a kid). He ALWAYS called me and not vice versa and never did things with his own convenience in mind (he would drive an hour to pick me up to bring me to an event out in his neck of the woods instead of me taking just taking a bus out there). He'd be scheming our next weekend together before the first one was over. One weekend he didn't. And he didn't call Monday or Tuesday,etc. When he finally called on Friday, I was very nice and chipper. But I already knew it was over and that he was no longer that interested. It SUCKED but I knew it by Wednesday. Of course I said nothing about what I knew, and we had a nice chat. He didn't ask to get together that weekend (but also didn't say he held other plans, which would have prevented it). He just called, we chatted and he said "talk soon." I knew that if we ever spoke again (we didn't), I'd have to be the one to call. One friend insisted I pursue him b/c "he's probably rusty with the dating game" and "just shy". I disagreed and lo and behold a month later, I found out he was hot and heavy on the dating scene and was acting 100% confident in himself and in hot pursuit of the woman of his dreams. My feeling is he met some gals he found hot (I am average) and decided to make a try for a certain type without stringing me along. He was not very attractive but he wanted what he wanted.

Don't accept anything lukewarm. I've never cared if the guy is hot or makes good money, but he's gotta be funny, reliable and totally 100% for me.

Huh. That pretty much mirrors how my ten month relationship with someone getting out of a long term marriage went. Except I was clueless and didn't pick up on the noncommunication part and was shocked to shit when I was later dumped on my ass. Within a year of dumping me, he'd bought a house with someone else.

greatwhitenorthchick · 01-07-2009, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by LessinSF

Passing on the obvious self-referential post, am I the only one who wants to hear about whatever trainwreck preceded the breakup with the last boyfriend?

You are not the only one.

Greedy,Greedy,Greedy · 01-07-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by robustpuppy

He is either lying or stupid or buried his head in the sand for 9.9 years.

Why must it always be either/or?

sebastian_dangerfield · 01-07-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LessinSF

Passing on the obvious self-referential post, am I the only one who wants to hear about whatever trainwreck preceded the breakup with the last boyfriend?

That was the thing where she was having an office romance with Adder. Scroll back a few months.

Flinty_McFlint · 01-07-2009, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by LessinSF

Passing on the obvious self-referential post, am I the only one who wants to hear about whatever trainwreck preceded the breakup with the last boyfriend?

Aw, don't be so hard on yourself. No, really, stop, you're going to chafe something fierce.

Pretty Little Flower · 01-07-2009, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by robustpuppy

You beautiful fucked-up man, this post makes me want to take care of you for hours and hours while sentimental chick music plays in the background.

Not Bob just got aroused.

robustpuppy · 01-07-2009, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by greatwhitenorthchick

You are not the only one.

It looks to me like everyone here really freaking wants to hear the story of Sunny's recent breakup but doesn't want to push for it because she just got out of a long-term relationship and if she really wanted to tell, she would.

A real dilemma. What to do, what to do.