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Originally Posted by Adder
Underlying all of this, allegedly, is her difficultly getting over a serious relationship with her ex. The "needing to be single" thing was actually several months ago, and was followed by all of a few days of not seeing her before she reached out to me again. My main reaction to it was surprise that I wasn't really upset and it has been awhile since I initiated anything.
But you guys are probably right, and my anxiety is probably misplaced. I just worry that she is taking things more seriously when the conversation turns more emotional/intimate, but that is probably just because those topics make me uncomfortable in general so if I was her I wouldn't bring them up casually. That probably isn't true of her.
To some degree this is also driven by some interest in a friend who recently moved back into town. Oddly enough, she actually asked me why I never dated this friend (which is a long story of its own).
I have really only done FWB once in that past, which didn't end all that well after she started to take it more seriously, which probably colors my reactions here.
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Let me ask you a question, since you think by staying with her, you are somehow preserving her feelings.
Do you want to be in a long-term relationship with this girl?
Because if you don't, you're just making things worse and will have to dump her silly ass at some point anyway. Do it now so you both can get on with your overly sensitive, mushy lives, separately.
TM
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