This is the thread where the fringster comes back with teeth

[dtb]

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski

theme schmeam, just remember what taxwonk always tells us- what matters most is that the outfit be all co-ordinated:

What are the chances that someone in that kind of getup would be staring longingly into the frozen-foods case?

[evenodds]

Originally Posted by Did you just call me Coltrane?

So, you're going to dress more formally than the wedding party? Is your SO wearing a dinner jacket?

Yikes.

That's the issue.

The bride is marrying my cousin. Aside from her evocative theme (yay Great Depression), our family has planned and is paying for the wedding. My aunts and my mother explained evening = formal, but the bride stuck to her guns on what her attendants will wear.

We are all wearing formal, so I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.

I am wearing a 30s-ish gown, but yes, we will all be more formal than the wedding party.

[Mmmm, Burger (C.J.)]

Originally Posted by evenodds

I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.
.

Is the bride curious about the emotional clusterfuck family into which she is marrying?

[Adder]

Originally Posted by evenodds

My aunts and my mother explained evening = formal, but the bride stuck to her guns on what her attendants will wear.

Oh my, what a terrible offensive prole your cousin is marrying! Why hasn't Poppy spoken to him about the disgrace he is doing to the good family name?

We are all wearing formal, so I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.

At least the ladies of the family have found a way to make a passive agressive statement of their superiority. Bully on you!

[Replaced_Texan]

Originally Posted by evenodds

That's the issue.

The bride is marrying my cousin. Aside from her evocative theme (yay Great Depression), our family has planned and is paying for the wedding. My aunts and my mother explained evening = formal, but the bride stuck to her guns on what her attendants will wear.

We are all wearing formal, so I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.

I am wearing a 30s-ish gown, but yes, we will all be more formal than the wedding party.

Hopefully she and her husband will be enjoying her wedding too much to care what people are wearing.

[dtb]

Originally Posted by evenodds

That's the issue.

The bride is marrying my cousin. Aside from her evocative theme (yay Great Depression), our family has planned and is paying for the wedding. My aunts and my mother explained evening = formal, but the bride stuck to her guns on what her attendants will wear.

We are all wearing formal, so I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.

I am wearing a 30s-ish gown, but yes, we will all be more formal than the wedding party.

Who is going to care what you'll be wearing? Is the wedding about the bride and groom, or the guests?


ETA: Or, what RT said.

[taxwonk]

Originally Posted by Hank Chinaski

theme schmeam, just remember what taxwonk always tells us- what matters most is that the outfit be all co-ordinated:

You're going to get in trouble again if you start posting pictures of Mrs. Chinaski.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally Posted by evenodds

I am wearing formal because it's evening. I am just curious as to how much of a bitch I am being.

Wedding-by-wedding, I'm afraid.

The fact that they're ignoring protocol suggests it isn't that important to conform, which would give you leeway to follow it. But there are people who work very hard at being laid back, so you never know.

If this is a bride who really really really wants it her way, and you're part of that, it's not that you're being bitch but just that you're creating a potentially stressing situation when it's not necessary.

[Did you just call me Coltrane?]

Originally Posted by dtb

Who is going to care what you'll be wearing? Is the wedding about the bride and groom

Yes. Which is why when some asshole shows up in khakis and a button-down shirt, other wedding guests will likely comment on it, which takes the focus away from the bride and groom.

I've been to a wedding in which I overheard "I can't believe he didn't wear a tie" by several guests about another guest. If he had worn a tie, maybe those people would have instead commented on the TITS of the bride, which is what the bride wants. Is it wrong to want all of the attention on yourself? Yes...but not on your wedding day.

I didn't play The Final Countdown a la GOB when my wife and I were announced only to be upstaged by some dick in pleated Dockers.

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally Posted by evenodds

That's the issue.

The bride is marrying my cousin. Aside from her evocative theme (yay Great Depression), our family has planned and is paying for the wedding. My aunts and my mother explained evening = formal, but the bride stuck to her guns on what her attendants will wear.

We are all wearing formal, so I am just curious about the emotional clusterfuck into which I am flying tomorrow.

I am wearing a 30s-ish gown, but yes, we will all be more formal than the wedding party.

So you all told her it should be formal? And then she said she didn't want it to be formal? And so you're going formal anyway?

That's kind of bitchy. Even to me.

[Fugee]

Originally Posted by dtb

Who is going to care what you'll be wearing? Is the wedding about the bride and groom, or the guests?


ETA: Or, what RT said.

2 to both dtb and RT. It's family. Chill out and don't worry about clothes rules or themes.

[Tyrone Slothrop]

Originally Posted by Adder

By sheer coincidence, and no actual effort on my part, I did actually bring in some new business today.

A word to the wise: Rainmakers call it new "bidness."

[evenodds]

Originally Posted by bold_n_brazen

So you all told her it should be formal? And then she said she didn't want it to be formal? And so you're going formal anyway?

That's kind of bitchy. Even to me.

But, the formality of attire is based on the hour and the location.

Otherwise, we descend into madness and anarchy.

There are rules, you know.

[Greedy,Greedy,Greedy]

Originally Posted by evenodds

But, the formality of attire is based on the hour and the location.

Otherwise, we descend into madness and anarchy.

There are rules, you know.

You mean this was true in the 30s, right?

[bold_n_brazen]

Originally Posted by evenodds

But, the formality of attire is based on the hour and the location.

Otherwise, we descend into madness and anarchy.

There are rules, you know.

There is also common courtesy to a woman on what is supposed to be an important and meaningful day in her life.

I just got married, in the evening. The wedding invitation requested "Jackets, no ties". I would have been annoyed if someone had shown up in a suit or an evening gown.